I met some O'Loughlin's in Independence, IA area about 25 years ago researching the family, and also

trying to find a Flannery, family of my Great, Great Grandmother O'Loughlin.  I recall there was a sign on a tire shop or something that it was some O'Loughlin's birthday, went in, and was invited to a family gathering where I met many O'Loughlins.  I cannot recall and don't have my records handy, but I found all the family to be very hospitable and fine people  I am sorry for your loss, an apparently great lady from what I can read.  May God Bless and comfort you all.